Imposter Syndrome: high-achieving individuals marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud” – Dr. Pauline R. Clance
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7th Post of 30 Day Challenge
NTS: It’s day 12 and I’m about 5 posts behind? But no matter, I will make it up in one sitting lol. We’ll I’ll attempt to. Writing ideas and titles down have helped a ton to sort out my thoughts. My writing still sucks but before heading into writing a post I feel a lot more confident going in. (Referring to: 4 Simple Steps to Become a Better Writer [It’s my note to self])
Nonetheless, we’ll get into what we’re here for in this post.
The Imposter Syndrome
I’m sure I’ve written about this before because this is an issue I repeatedly
interact (encounter?) with have (lol). I always have a high tendency to hit the ground running but if I pause to take a breath or let up the hustle in any way, I freeze up, curl up in a ball and don’t do anything. Now I know that makes no sense, especially when I’m always such an advocate for moving forward, but honestly, it just takes me by surprise every time and I feel helpless. Like I can’t do anything about it and I’m just stuck. So not to any surprise writing this post is a visual representation of me attempting to get out of the imposter syndrome. Lol, I’ll explain below 🙂
What Is The Imposter Syndrome?
It’s the crippling thought that holds us back because we feel that people like us can’t possibly ever be successful. Our minds say that what we want to achieve is impossible because we’re nothing (but stupid, unreliable, dull, and more negative words). Although you might not think it, it seems as if your value or success is heavily reliant on what other people think. Because we don’t seem to be the same as the people around us (they’ve accomplished so much, they are doing so much better, they got it all figured out). It feels as if we’re just here… acting it out.
This is about the point in time where my brain just gives out, my body freeze, and I’m ready to just go to bed. (and my goodness just writing that made me feel that way so let’s try to head over to the solutions focused side of my brain –> Let’s go!)
What You Need to Remember
If you’ve experienced this feeling, you’re not alone. The main thing you need to remember is that it’s not because you are “flawed”. But more so that underneath that polished surface of those people you look up to, we often forget they are also “flawed” with more or less many of the same things as you. It’s really similar to when you were a child thinking of your parents or teachers. Like they can’t possibly understand you or know what you’re going through. They could have never been the same age once and wanting to do the same things because presently they don’t seem like they’d enjoy any of it especially since they’re so strict now. But the truth is, regardless of how much it looks like they’ve figured it out, nobody knows what they’re doing. We’re all just making it up as we go along.
“No one knows what they’re doing the first day of anything”
So, everyone’s just lost? What’s the point?
Just because we don’t have any idea of what we’re doing, doesn’t mean we don’t need to do it. It’s the ones of us that push through this stage of un-comfortability that are the ones that make changes in the world. If we push through this boundary we level up, we get to do the things we’ve always wanted. Instead of feeling shitty about how far we’ve come we really need to focus on enjoying the process of everything we do. You got this far you might as well enjoy what you continue doing. I mean easier said then done but here are the steps I’m hoping to follow so I don’t freak out again and curl up into a ball for hibernation.
1. List your Accomplishments
Self-plug here. But this is the main facet of why I added this section in the Limitless Planner. I feel like for me I always focus on what I haven’t done yet and beat myself up for it. What I’ve noticed maybe its the way my area grew up but we don’t give ourselves enough credit for the things we have accomplished. We’re always pushing to be better or get more done and although it’s good in theory we still need to praise ourselves for the work we have done.
We treat everything we have done as nothing when we should really be celebrating like Drake. lol
Okay, but seriously. Write up a list of what you have gotten done, you’d be surprised to see how awesome you forgot you were.
2. Put in Work! Fake it Till You Make It
You have to act as if. Act as if you are the CEO of a Fortune 500 company as if you are a $10 million per year entrepreneur, or a best-selling author, and so on. Don’t just act as if, act as if and feel great about it. Working to become a better version of yourself is something to be proud of, not something to feel insecure over.
Make your goals big and strong. Raise the bar, when you make what you want to do unbelievably important and you take it seriously. The imposter syndrome won’t be there because you gave everything to it your brain with your dedication your brain will recognize that you are striving for something great. And if you succeed your goal you’ll be forced to actually internalize the victory because you made it a big part of your life.
NTS: I think this is my issue right now. I feel like I’m sabotaging myself for the launch of the Limitless planner because I don’t feel like I’m good enough for it. I want to be able to help out as many people as possible but I also feel like it’s not good enough yet. But the truth is, even if I could spark one change for the better in one person I would be ecstatic. I think overthinking just makes us feel that way. So instead of beating myself up or inhibiting the growth of the planner (I think I’m unintentionally doing this to take off the pressure?). I need to clarify how important this is to myself and go full force on it. If that makes any sense.
Other things you can do:
- Stop seeing other people as better than you. The only thing that separates you from anyone else in the world is time and effort. Anything that anyone else can do, you can do too.
- The fastest way to start using impostor syndrome to your advantage is to accept that everyone else is an impostor too.
- Remember where you were at from 1,2,5 or even 10 years ago (You’ve most likely have grown since then)
- Stop judging yourself from yesterday and hoping you’ll be where you want to be in 5 years today.
- Instead, think about where you were in the past and how far you’ve come. Progress is happening!
- Another self-plug for Limitless. You can review how far you’ve gotten by writing a letter to yourself or a friend to help you know where you are and why you do what you do.
- Know you are not just your work.
- Learn new skills! Pick up new hobbies! Start doing more things you enjoy!
- Imposter Syndrome: Hesitant to take action because you feel like a fraud. Often because you can’t accept your accomplishments
My Solution/Action Items:
- List all your accomplishments: Give yourself credit for how far you’ve come
- Track where you were 1,3 or 10 years ago and what you’ve gotten done since then
- Take Action! Fake it till you make it and just keep going
- Make what you do unbelievably important and give it everything.
- Remember: Stop seeing other people as better than you. Nobody has it figured out so if you’re an imposter so are they. Anything that anyone else can do, you can do too.
- View the Log
- Day 1: The 30 Day Challenge
- Day2: Baby Steps and Procrastination
- Day 3: Self Discipline
- Day4: Presence and Mindfulness
- Day 5: Diet, Supplements and Lifestyle Changes
- Day6: 4 Habits of an Aspiring Writer
- Day 7: The Imposter Syndrome
Down 5 articles but will make it up before the 30 days are up